How did I change my attitude toward my father?My father was an old revolutionary.He spent the better part of his life on in-fightingduring the Cultural Revolution.Since he was in the turmoil era for so long,he didn't know what the love was and how to

How did I change my attitude toward my father?My father was an old revolutionary.He spent the better part of his life on in-fightingduring the Cultural Revolution.Since he was in the turmoil era for so long,he didn't know what the love was and how to
How did I change my attitude toward my father?
My father was an old revolutionary.He spent the better part of his life on in-fighting
during the Cultural Revolution.Since he was in the turmoil era for so long,he
didn't know what the love was and how to express the love to his sons and daughters.
He acted as a military commander rather than a father in the family.I still remember
the din of quarrels and curses between my parents when I began to know things.
He treated me like dirt and deserted me as I needed his help most.To such a person,
there was nothing left but hatred.I despised him from my very heart.Now,he is old,
he wants me to take care of him.Pooh!I nearly throw up when I think how he treated
me in the past.
For the past several months,things have changed.That is the heritage which he
intented to leave to our three siblings.In order to get the legacy,I have to change
strategy.Now he is in the hospital and medicated there.I shouldn't appear to be un
'ungrateful son'.Instead,I have to pretend to frequent his ward as much as possible.
I try to make euphric compliments and flatteries before him.I ask him about what he
needs,whatever he wants,I will get them for him,even stars.He wanted to taste
homemade sweet damplings,I searched half of the city for them.I even have learned
to massage and wash his body.It's so disguasting!I look forward to his death as
soon as possible to end my service.How hypocrisy!
It seems that I work as an actor who plays two characters.One is cool,aloof and
real myself.I still hate him and despise him.This role is easily played because it
is real me.The past horrible memories can not be easily erased from my mind.The
other role is a submissive,happy-go-lucky and carefree man.He holds tears and
bites the bullets to force smiles to make his father feel happy and comfortable.I
dislike it because it's against my willing and nature.I still believe that one gets
what he sows.One sows nothing,he will get nothing.Why should he get what
doesn't belong to him?that includes respect,love and affections.He doesn't
deserve to be treated like an qualified father.I am in dilema.what do you think of
that?Please give your valuable advice.

How did I change my attitude toward my father?My father was an old revolutionary.He spent the better part of his life on in-fightingduring the Cultural Revolution.Since he was in the turmoil era for so long,he didn't know what the love was and how to
Thank you for your long story and being candid to yourself.If you want my advice,keep pretending to be a good son.Whenever you want to give up,just think of the money he will give to you and hold on.
However mean you may think of him,that's just your single-sided point of view which may not be fair enough.For one thing,he brought you into this world,and most importantly he brought you up,at least,he worked hard to support your family.Just think of those irresponsible fathers who simply left their families and left their children behind.You're still among the lucky ones.Have you ever realized that it's your damned father who made you the person you are today.Aren't there anything nice and sweet you had with him in the past?And there are just so many of us who are regretting that they didn't treat their parents nicely enough when they were alive.And they don't have any chance now.
Even if there was and is nothing good at all of him,he's still your father,and he's ill now.Can you just imagine that you're doing charity work?
Before I finished reading your story,I was actually expecting a happy ending that after doing all this unwillingly for his father,the son finally found that he loved his father.
I've never been in your boots,but I believe there's unconditional love between a father and a son.

我的父亲是个老革命，他的青春是在文革的斗争中度过的，自从动乱以来，他就一直不知道什么是爱，更不知道如何对子女表达爱。在我看来，他更像个军队长而非父亲。依稀记得父母不停地吵闹打架。他从未把我当回事，更在我需要帮助的时候抛弃我，就是这样一个人，我对他只有痛恨，发自内心深处的鄙视他。但现在他老了，需要我照顾他，切！当前我想到他以前是如何对我的时候我无法控制的恶心！
过去几个月，一切发生着变化。...

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我的父亲是个老革命，他的青春是在文革的斗争中度过的，自从动乱以来，他就一直不知道什么是爱，更不知道如何对子女表达爱。在我看来，他更像个军队长而非父亲。依稀记得父母不停地吵闹打架。他从未把我当回事，更在我需要帮助的时候抛弃我，就是这样一个人，我对他只有痛恨，发自内心深处的鄙视他。但现在他老了，需要我照顾他，切！当前我想到他以前是如何对我的时候我无法控制的恶心！
过去几个月，一切发生着变化。这些变化源自他那笔要留给我们兄弟姐妹的遗产，为了得到这笔遗产，我改变了自己的战略，现在他在医院调养，我不应该表现出不孝，取而代之我应该尽可能多出现在他的病房，我要极尽我之能事的讨好他赞美他！我问他需要什么，并且保证即使是天上的星星我也会为他摘下来。他想吃家常甜饺，我搜罗了大半个城市去找到给他，我甚至学着为他按揉洗澡!这真是恶心至极！我甚至期盼他快点死去从而让我解脱！这是多么虚伪！
我就像个双面人！其中一个是那个冷血，冷漠但是真实的自己，我依然痛恨并且鄙视他，这个角色对我来说如鱼得水，因为那就是真实的自我！以前的痛苦怎么能轻易被擦掉呢。。。而另一个角色则是一个顺从听话，无忧无虑的人。他咬紧牙关，强忍泪水地哄着他的父亲开心，我讨厌这样子，因为这有违我的内心。我仍然相信种瓜得瓜种豆得豆。为什么他没有得到他该得到的报应呢？尊重、爱、感情，现在他得到了这些不属于他的东西：一个真正的父亲该得到的。我现在进退两难。你怎么认为呢？请给我些中肯的意见吧！

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我要如何才能改变对父亲的态度
我父亲是一名老革命。在他一生当中美好的时光里，爆发了文革，明争暗斗，尔虞我诈。正是因为经历过这样混乱的年代，他不清楚什么是真正的爱，如何对子女表达这种爱。他在家里，不像是一位父亲，反倒像是一位司令官。我仍旧记得，从我记事的时候起，父母就没完没了的吵架。父亲认为我就是个渣渣，我是家里孩子里面最弱小的那个。父亲留给我的只有恨，发自内心的那种厌恶。现在，他年纪大...

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我要如何才能改变对父亲的态度
我父亲是一名老革命。在他一生当中美好的时光里，爆发了文革，明争暗斗，尔虞我诈。正是因为经历过这样混乱的年代，他不清楚什么是真正的爱，如何对子女表达这种爱。他在家里，不像是一位父亲，反倒像是一位司令官。我仍旧记得，从我记事的时候起，父母就没完没了的吵架。父亲认为我就是个渣渣，我是家里孩子里面最弱小的那个。父亲留给我的只有恨，发自内心的那种厌恶。现在，他年纪大了，想让我去照顾他。我靠！一想起过去他对我的种种，我就想吐。
过去的几个月间，发生了一些事情。是关于家里面三个孩子如何分配遗产的问题。处于这点考虑，我改变了策略。他现在住院接受治疗。从面子来讲，我不想做一个“不孝子”。于是，我便假装经常去看望他，当着他的面说写阿谀奉承，讨好他的话。我问他想要什么，什么都行，甚至是星星，我也会摘下来给他。他说想吃家里面包的糖饺子，结果我跑了大半个城区才弄到。最后我都学会了按摩，擦洗他的身体。简直太恶心了！我一心盼着他早点死。这样我就不用遭罪了。我真假！
我似乎在扮演两个角色。一个是冷酷无情的，真实的自我。我厌恶他，排斥他，对他深恶痛绝。这个绝很容易扮演，因为这个就是真实的我。过去那些痛苦的回忆，不是说能忘就能忘的。我要扮演的另一个角色是顺从的、体贴的、毫不在意的人。在这个角色中，我要忍住泪水和伤痛，强颜欢笑，这样才能让父亲觉得高兴，觉得舒服。我很厌恶这样，因为这样会有违我的良心。我相信，恶有恶报善有善报。他对我什么样，我就应该对他什么样，以牙还牙。他不值得我对他这样，也不值得尊重和被爱。他根本就不是以为称职的父亲。
我有点蛋疼了，谁能帮我出出主意？
PS：I also have an qualified dad,and I think I hate him more than this one does.

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　我的父亲是一个老革命。他花了大半的他的生活在暗斗
　　在文化大革命期间。因为他在动荡时代的时间那么的长,他
　　不知道什么是爱,如何表达爱他的儿子和女儿。
　　他作为一个军事指挥官而不是一个父亲在家庭。我仍然记得
　　的喧嚣和诅咒父母之间争吵的时候,我开始知道事情。
　　他对待我就像泥土和遗弃了我当我需要他的帮助很多。这样的一个人　在过去的几个月里,事情已...

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　我的父亲是一个老革命。他花了大半的他的生活在暗斗
　　在文化大革命期间。因为他在动荡时代的时间那么的长,他
　　不知道什么是爱,如何表达爱他的儿子和女儿。
　　他作为一个军事指挥官而不是一个父亲在家庭。我仍然记得
　　的喧嚣和诅咒父母之间争吵的时候,我开始知道事情。
　　他对待我就像泥土和遗弃了我当我需要他的帮助很多。这样的一个人　在过去的几个月里,事情已经发生了变化。这是他的遗产
　　主要给我们三个兄弟姐妹。为了得到遗产,我必须改变
　　策略。现在他正在医院和药用那里。我不应该似乎是联合国
　　“忘恩负义的儿子”。相反,我不得不假装频繁的他的病房尽可能多。
　　我试图让euphric赞美和恭维的话在他面前。我问他关于他
　　需要,所有他想要的,我将让他们对他,甚至明星。他想品尝　　看来我的工作作为一个演员饰演两个角色。一个是冷酷、孤傲和
　　真正的我自己。我仍然讨厌他,鄙视他。这个角色很容易打,因为它
　　是真实的我。过去可怕的记忆不能被轻易抹去我心中。这个
　　其他的角色是一个顺从的,随遇而安的人,无忧无虑。他拥有眼泪和
　　咬子弹强迫微笑使他的父亲感到快乐和舒适。我
　　不喜欢它,因为它是对我的愿意和自然。我仍然相信一个会
　　什么

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